Does Your Parent Need Help at Home? 10 Things to Check When You Visit

Your elderly parents are probably going to tell you they need help. They usually hide the problems from their loved ones either because they do not want you to be worried or simple because they do not want to lose their independence. The feeling usually is that the more help they need, the stronger the argument becomes to move to a nursing home.
How then do you know when it is time that your elderly parents need help and what kind of help do they need? To answer this question, you have to consider the health history of your parents. The objective is that you want them to be healthy and safe without engaging in activities that could jeopardize either one.

Good health can assessed in terms of physical, mental and spiritual health. For your parents to be in good health they have to be able to participate in activities that at least maintain all three aspects of health and not engage in those activities that could endanger them.

Here are a few questions the next time you visit will help you begin to figure out what they need.

1. Have there been any major changes in your parent's weight recently?
2. Is your parent exercising or otherwise staying active? (Walking counts!)
3. Is your parent getting out of the house?
4. Does your parent socialize with friends or neighbors?
5. Can your parent manage the finances independently? Does he or she pay bills on time?
6. If an appliance breaks, can your parent find a repairman and make an appointment?
7. Does your parent have trouble climbing steps?
8. Does your parent have a plan in the event of a medical emergency or natural disaster?
9. Does your parent seem happy or content? Are there any signs of depression?
10. Is your parent able to main the household independently (e.g., cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping)?

Exercising regularly and eating properly can help maintain their physical health. Socializing with friends and neighbors can help maintain both their mental and spiritual health. Hoes with a lot of stairs can become a problem when we get older. Climbing the stairs can put a lot of strain on the knees and lower back.

Trouble with keeping financial records can point to other underlying issues in addition to the stress that can result.
As you notice changes, you should discuss the issues with your parents. When the time comes that help is needed, gradually introduce help. As your parents get used to the help and the benefits from it, they can become more comfortable with using help.

If you decide to use outside professional help, make sure you do your due diligence. Seniors are particularly vulnerable to unscrupulous behavior which can go from elder abuse, neglect to just plain old stealing. Get to understand the types of care available in your area. You may need the help of a geriatric care manager.

Threats

Preparation against Natural Disaster

Seniors are more vulnerable during a natural disaster. Make sure your parents are prepared for any unexpected events that could potentially knock out power or prevent food from being readily available.
•Check the cabinets for sufficient foodstuffs. When the power and electricity are out, your parent will need water and packaged or canned goods. (Does your parent have difficulty opening canned goods? Read about assistive devices here.)
•Keep flashlights throughout the house in easy-to-find places. They should be within reach and have working batteries.
•Ask neighbors whom you trust to check on your parents in the event of a natural disaster.

Driving when they should not

This is a sticky one. Some elderly individuals are perfectly responsible drivers and have earned the right to be on the road. However, if you're not sure whether your parent should still be driving, read tips on how to assess the situation and suggestions for talking to your parents about this touchy issue.

Home Invasion

The home alarm security system is no longer that expensive. For a small monthly fee, many alarm monitoring agencies would even install a system for free. The added plus is that most monitored systems can also be used in case of an emergency and fire.

A good pet can also help with protection and provide comfort for your elderly parents.

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